By and large, guys are pretty bad when it comes to flirting. It’s time you learn a few of the basics, so that you can get an edge over the competition. These flirting tips will have you headed in the right direction in no time.

Physical & Verbal cues

1) Posture and Positioning Your posture communicates everything. You need to arch your back and stick out your chest. Take up space. If you’re talking to a girl, stand no more than two feet away. Don’t necessarily encroach her space, but stand just a little closer than you might ordinarily.

Maintain an open body position at all times. Never cross your arms or put your hands in your pockets. If you want to test her to see if she’s into you, step back a foot and see if she follows. If she does come closer, it’s a good sign.

2) Eyes The eyes can be your most effective tool for flirting. Use your eyes to give off powerful stares of desire. It’s possible to make a girl’s heart skip a beat by giving her a playful, lusty, or lingering stare. If you’re walking by a girl you’ve got the hots for, give her a 2-3 second stare and then slowly glance away (slow is important). Smile just as you start to look away. She’ll get the message.

3) Touch It’s OK to lightly touch her shoulder or arm when you’re talking to her. But be careful. Guys have to walk a fine line when it comes to touch. Don’t go overboard or you’ll freak the girl out.

4) Be aggressive Women love guys who aren’t scared to go after what they want. When you show no fear in your pursuit, you come across looking like a confident man. Don’t be scared to compliment a girl…tell her what you think. If she’s looking extra nice, go ahead and tell her. Not only will it make her day…she’ll immediately realize that you want her.

5) What you should say To be completely honest, if you’re sending out all the right body language, it doesn’t matter what you say. Keep the conversation light, nothing serious or in-depth. Bear in mind, though, that it’s always best to focus on charming her and being complimentary about her looks. You can also be flattering by telling her how well she did on an oral report or test, a good game, etc. You can even tease her playfully. Just be sure to send out all the other body signals while you’re talking.

Mental cues

1) Exude confidence and self-assuredness It’s crucial that you present yourself as a person who feels in control of the situation and isn’t nervous. Put on a show of confidence…girls love guys who are secure. Remember, a confident and secure person is a major turn on. This is why girls are always falling for cocky jerks. Exhibiting insecurity and fear is something you should avoid at all costs. This means no…stammering, fidgeting, wandering eyes (off into the distance), wavering voice, etc.

2) Radiate happiness, enthusiasm, & excitement You’ve got to be full of energy and in a positive mind frame to be an effective flirt. If you’re kicking out good vibes, your target will pick up on it and rise to your level.

Todd Peterson is the editor of the popular teen community HighWorld.com To read other romance articles written by Todd, visit: http://www.highworld.com/romance/index.php

Mastitis is perhaps the most distressing problem you may encounter when attempting to breastfeed. You have been making it through the sleepless nights, the relentless feeding schedule, the diapers, the leaking… when all of a sudden you want to stop breastfeeding. Why?
Mastitis is the answer. One of your breasts is engorged. There is a slightly red patch which is painful to touch. When the baby feeds it’s extremely uncomfortable. After the feed your breast feels sore. You dread the next feed… and then you begin shivering. You think you have the flu. You have hot and cold sweats. You have a thumping headache. You retire to your bed and feel utterly miserable. Visitors encourage you to give the baby a bottle so you feel like you’ve failed… but there is a solution.
In most cases mastitis affects only one breast at a time. So what causes it? Most often a new mum, whether or not she has previously breastfed, will suffer mastitis as a result of incorrect positioning or latching on of the baby. Consequently the milk is not properly drained from the breast and a milk duct becomes blocked. Other reasons include skipping feeds because you don’t want to feed in public or in front of visitors, or the baby is sleeping and you do not want to disturb him.
If you recognise the sensation of a blocked milk duct you may be able to avoid it progressing into mastitis by gently massaging your breast in the bath or shower. Massage downwards towards the nipple. You may feel a small lump which disappears as the duct becomes unblocked. You can also try feeding the baby more often and again massaging the sore area towards the nipple as the baby drinks. Another effective technique is to try expressing milk with the aid of an electric or hand pump. However, if all your efforts are in vain and the duct does not unblock mastitis will often follow. Mastitis is simply when the blocked duct becomes inflamed and possibly infected.
Current medical advice is to continue feeding from the affected breast even if it is infected. The infection will not harm the baby. However, the last thing you may want to do is to feed from the affected side at all as it is so painful. This will only make things worse and you may end up with an abscess. If this happens you will need to have the abscess drained by a doctor.
If you are worried about your baby drinking milk from the affected breast a good alternative is to express and dispose of the milk and to feed only from the unaffected side. Your body will adapt. It will continue to supply enough milk for your baby from the unaffected breast. And as long as you express regularly from the affected breast the milk supply will be maintained. You produce breastmilk on a supply and demand basis so there will always be enough. When the infection clears up you can simply return to your usual feeding pattern.
If you do get mastitis and it does not clear up within a few hours you will probably require an antibiotic so speak to your GP. Make sure to tell him you are breastfeeding so a suitable antibiotic can be prescribed.
To avoid a recurrence make sure you position the baby properly. Ensure he is not sucking on just the nipple but that he has a good mouthful of the areola also. Try to sit upright or if lying down do not lie on the breast. Make sure the baby is tummy-to-tummy with you, his nose and mouth facing the breast and that he is not creating a blockage with his chin or a hand or arms.
Mastitis usually clears up completely within a couple of days so put it in perspective. Don’t give up breastfeeding because you have mastitis. Instead ensure you don’t get it again; position your baby correctly, feed on demand and avoid skipping breastfeeds.

Sinead Hoben is the proud mum of three beautiful children aged 6 years, 3 years and 9 months old, all of whom were breastfed. She is currently still breastfeeding her youngest child. A qualified teacher, she now runs her own website, http://www.breastfeedingmums.com, which addresses many of the concerns of breastfeeding mums. www.breastfeedingmums.com offers free breastfeeding information and advice to both breastfeeding and expectant mums.

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