By and large, guys are pretty bad when it comes to flirting. It’s time you learn a few of the basics, so that you can get an edge over the competition. These flirting tips will have you headed in the right direction in no time.

Physical & Verbal cues

1) Posture and Positioning Your posture communicates everything. You need to arch your back and stick out your chest. Take up space. If you’re talking to a girl, stand no more than two feet away. Don’t necessarily encroach her space, but stand just a little closer than you might ordinarily.

Maintain an open body position at all times. Never cross your arms or put your hands in your pockets. If you want to test her to see if she’s into you, step back a foot and see if she follows. If she does come closer, it’s a good sign.

2) Eyes The eyes can be your most effective tool for flirting. Use your eyes to give off powerful stares of desire. It’s possible to make a girl’s heart skip a beat by giving her a playful, lusty, or lingering stare. If you’re walking by a girl you’ve got the hots for, give her a 2-3 second stare and then slowly glance away (slow is important). Smile just as you start to look away. She’ll get the message.

3) Touch It’s OK to lightly touch her shoulder or arm when you’re talking to her. But be careful. Guys have to walk a fine line when it comes to touch. Don’t go overboard or you’ll freak the girl out.

4) Be aggressive Women love guys who aren’t scared to go after what they want. When you show no fear in your pursuit, you come across looking like a confident man. Don’t be scared to compliment a girl…tell her what you think. If she’s looking extra nice, go ahead and tell her. Not only will it make her day…she’ll immediately realize that you want her.

5) What you should say To be completely honest, if you’re sending out all the right body language, it doesn’t matter what you say. Keep the conversation light, nothing serious or in-depth. Bear in mind, though, that it’s always best to focus on charming her and being complimentary about her looks. You can also be flattering by telling her how well she did on an oral report or test, a good game, etc. You can even tease her playfully. Just be sure to send out all the other body signals while you’re talking.

Mental cues

1) Exude confidence and self-assuredness It’s crucial that you present yourself as a person who feels in control of the situation and isn’t nervous. Put on a show of confidence…girls love guys who are secure. Remember, a confident and secure person is a major turn on. This is why girls are always falling for cocky jerks. Exhibiting insecurity and fear is something you should avoid at all costs. This means no…stammering, fidgeting, wandering eyes (off into the distance), wavering voice, etc.

2) Radiate happiness, enthusiasm, & excitement You’ve got to be full of energy and in a positive mind frame to be an effective flirt. If you’re kicking out good vibes, your target will pick up on it and rise to your level.

Todd Peterson is the editor of the popular teen community HighWorld.com To read other romance articles written by Todd, visit: http://www.highworld.com/romance/index.php

It sounds obvious, but if you don’t get off your butt and approach women you aren’t going to have any numbers to call at the end of the day.

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Brian Caniglia
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I would like to share a little of my experience with dating gals.

I like to join group gathering, functions, get together type of arrangement among a group of people, etc. I will mingle among those people and find my target gal - the one I have a sort of feeling for. Once I find that gal, I will approach her to start a normal conversation. If I am not being rejected, then I will proceed to bring her away from the crowd where I can have a more private talk with her.

Normally my first conversation will last for at least 2 hours and I will volunteer to send her back home. Before parting, I will get her contact numbers and soon I will be calling her every other night if I am not going out with her on a date.

I believe to make your first date, you should be brave to make your first move to break the ice. Don’t be shy if you want someone to be in your life.